Isn't it funny how someone you may have met only for a short moment can make such an impact on your life?!
I don't know if its because I am more open to beautiful experiences and more in touch with my feelings and what I want but nearly everyone I meet is making a difference, some good some bad.
A lot has changed for me in the last 7 months, some good, some great and some not so good and not so great. I've learnt what I want, what I deserve and what I need. But because of these lessons I've become less tolerant.
I will no longer be treated badly, be used or put on the sideline.
Only I can dictate how I am treated and I think I'm doing that pretty successfully without malice and spite. There's been a few instances over the weekend where I have stood up for myself and really shown people that I am worth more than what they're willing to give/show/treat me.
In particular I had the pleasure of telling a guy something really empowering. I had the opportunity to stand up for myself and my worth.
This guy had been texting and calling me constantly for 4 days to the point it was getting to be creepy. One night I went out with one of my friends to a small gathering and he called so I politely told him that I was at a party and that I'd call him later. Of course I was too busy having a good time to even recall the phone call it the next time he's texted me which once again I was out with friends so I ignored it, then he called, then texted again and again and again... Stage FIVE clinger!
So I was under the influence but my reply was stern, firm and empowering. To some it may come across bitchy but this guy was out of control! I tried being polite but he just pushed me to the edge. You can see below for the screenshots... Keep in mind this is after he's badgered me continuously for days!
I refused to let this guy make me feel bad for having a good time with my friends, I refused to let him dictate the grounds of the contact and I refused to let him trap me into something that made me feel anxious.
I am an independent woman who will no longer let a man tell me what I can do, say or act like. I did that for far too long and now it's time for me to do me. If that means I have to shuffle guys along the way, no problems!
I want to enjoy my life, not sit on my phone and reassure some strange guy that I may be interested in him!
There are only a few things I need a man for in my life; Putting together Ikea furniture, making cups of tea and washing my car. Sheesh with technology these days I don't even need one for procreation hahaha!
But what I really don't understand is why people think its necessary to be in constant contact with someone? A good morning text and a few hey how's your day going will never go astray but the constant badgering of trying to pin point the last time I pee'd is not necessary. I have things to do and I would like to hope so do you.
Yes, I like to enjoy my time out with friends (which I haven't done in a long time) but I eventually want to meet a guy who can enjoy his time alone but knows how to chill at home with a good movie and some cuddles too. Is that too much to ask?!
If you need someone to constantly reassure you of your worth, you don't value yourself enough.
**No I do not screenshot all my texts for blog material**