Its not often that your lucky enough to find someone who is your equal; the same mindset, humour, ambition and understanding that compliments yours.
I've been in three very long and very serious relationships in my life thus far and not one of them matched me in the way that your partner should. I was the carer. The one who cooked, cleaned, sacrificed and compromised but with not substantial return.
Now you should never do anything in hopes that you'll gain or get something in return but you should at least feel as if the both of you are on the same team. I've said it before but I'll say it again: you should never have to empty your cup to fill someone else's up.
After one too many dud dates and mindless conversations, I found my equal.
He's strong willed, ambitious, hilarious, caring, honest, understanding, empathetic and not to mention extremely adorable.
Now how did I find him? Well tinder but psychologically I think we manifested a magnetic pull towards each other.
Both of us have previously been in long term relationships, learnt lessons from them and took a step back from jumping into anything so that we can work on ourselves.
Now the time that I took to really work on myself has shown me my strength and my weaknesses. It allowed me to really think about what has previously worked and what didn't, that goes for family, friendships and relationships.
With my new found equal there's no thinking. Everything happens clearly and there's no second guessing. If there's an issue, we talk about it like adults. If one person is upset by the other, we both nip it in the butt before it turns into some petty squabble.
The compromise happens on both sides of this relationship. Our time is limited as we are both busy with personal and professional commitments but we both make the time for each other not to mention he sleeps in my bed with Dog Bentley and trust me if you seen how this dog sleeps it's a pretty big deal.
He is my equal because he understands my struggle and calms my soul. He is created my equal because he pushes me to be better and eat Viet pork rolls lol. He is created my equal because he is open and honest with me.
A strong relationship can only occur when two whole people come together. Two people who compliment each other and push each other to be better. Two people who are strong in their ways but are able to see the other persons side without malice or spite.
Refuse to settle for less than your equal. Refuse to settle for someone who isn't worthy of you. Refuse to let someone treat you like your beneath them.
Settle for someone who fills your gaps, speaks to your soul, comforts you, cares for you and holds you like they don't want you to go.